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Fem/Studs, step up your game in 2021

It has been a tough year for a lot us. Some of us have had to change , postpone, and rearrange our goals. Despite the challenges of 2020, we look forward to improving ourselves in so many ways.

Whatever goals you have for the year, let’s step it up.

Job or Career

Some of us lost our jobs last year or maybe you just didn’t have. Either way, if a job is what you need to step it up, here are some websites that might help.

Indeed – A job site with thousands of jobs and help on finding employment

A Shout Out.Net – A new website that allows you to advertise your skills and talents. It also allows individuals access to their job board.

Ziprecruiter – A job site that has hundreds of jobs and services.

Resume Help – Free resume help and templates.

Fitness & Health

Is your goal to eat better or get a better body? Let get on it! If your goal is to lose weight, then join a gym or create your own little work out area at home. Here are some websites to visit:

24 Hour Fitness

Planet Fitness

Gold’s Gym


Whether your goal is to save, invest in stocks, consolidate, repair your credit, get a bad credit loan, whatever you need to improve your finances, take some time to do something about your money and finances.

Starting a Business

For those who are looking to work for themselves and start their own business, I want to share the video below:

Score – is non-profit organization that offers mentoring, advice, education and more to help you start a business.

Business Loans – Offers business loans and business services.


If education has been one of your excuses, although there so many educational resources such as YouTube, and other really knowledgeable sites, below are some sites that provide some free learning courses;

Free 1 month Microsoft Office classes

Free Online GED courses

New Connections

You might want to make some new friend or love connections. Elite Singles is a good place to start.

EliteSingles – Lesbian Dating


Bring in the new year with a new look or just do some up-grades. Remember looking and smelling good is a must!

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Stepping Up Our Game

Your goals my not be in these areas, but whatever they are, let’s start the new year out by striving to achieve those goals for 2021, by stepping up our game!

Below are some Free information on goalsetting and self-improvement:

Improving Oneself For Good and Achieve Goals in Life

How to Set and Achieve Goals

15 Side Hustle Businesses to Start That Can Make You Extra Money in Your Local Area

We really have come a long way

A Look Back on Being a “Gay Woman”

A beautiful thing about being in love, is that it comes in all sizes, color, ethic backgrounds etc. but it extends back into time. Not accepted by all but felt by so many.

Maybe in Time

There was that time when we hid our love, so deep inside us so no one could see.

That secret love between you and me.

We played the game of who we were.

Only that connection between her and her.

Our loving looks

Our romantic books

To whom it belonged

Only understood in our songs

I longed so much for you in my dreams

Not able to act it out by any means

Why, oh why?

Why can’t I be free and have you

To no avail I am apart of you

Please let us be ourselves

Even though we’re not like anyone else

Maybe in time, maybe in time

This will all be over, and you will be mine

By Keyty

Should I Date a “Straight” Woman?

First question is, what are our intentions? Why are we dating each other in the first place? What do I want with her? Am I just wanting to date her just to “hit” it? Or am I looking for a relationship with her?

Next question I ask is, why would she want to date me? One thing I need to think about is, when a so called “straight” woman accepts to go out with a stud (gay) woman, she herself is stepping out of her “zone”. This woman is straight, and usually dates males, then why me? So, what are her intentions? Is she just sexually curious, or is she seeking to have a relationship with me?

Even though a woman is “straight” her intentions with you could be she is ready to settle down and is tired of the abuse or disrespect she has been getting from men and wants something different. These women know were not men, so if that were an issue, then they would not date us in the first place.

The truth is, some women are “real”. They do not play games. When it comes to relationships, they take them seriously no matter who they are with a Male or Female. They will be dedicated, committed and loyal.

So, I do not think the question is should I date a straight woman, but should I date “this” woman”?


Now that same-sex marriage is legal, does that mean we should get married?

Having been in several relationships, I have often contemplated marriage.  Marriage sounded good. It sounded complete. When I think about the times, I was seriously considering marrying someone and that has been a few times. I realized that if I had married those women, they would have been big mistakes.

Since same-sex marriage has not always been legal and even today, it is still not in some states. To make that step for me, would have been major.  I had never been married before to anyone, so I had to really consider the indepthness of it all. 

I have attended several gay and straight weddings which some lasted, but a few failed miserably. I certainly did not want my first and hopefully “only” marriage to be a disaster too.

I have been in maybe two or three so-called real relationships. Some lasted for two or three years. One lasted for many years. With each one I thought about marriage because I felt I was in love and that was what we should do.

The one relationship I had that did last for many years, felt like a marriage because we had invested so many years together. If we had been a straight couple, we probably would have “tied the knot” a few months after we met but it was not legal then. Now would this marriage have lasted.  No, it would not have. The truth is if we had gotten married, it would have ended badly, probably in divorce. So, I am glad we did not get married.

Today I think a lot of gay couples jump into marriage too quickly.  Just because it is legal, and they are in love. But believe, me sometimes that “love stuff”, is just not enough. Being in love does not mean that marriage is right for you. Going into marriage without really knowing each other can end up disastrously.  Just because two people are in love, does not mean being marriage is going to work.  

Truth is that any marriage made today can come out disastrous.  But to some, gay and straight, marriage is taken too lightly.

Some couples, just having a ceremony and taking vows means marriage to them. Because when you sign those papers, it brings on a whole new realty, it is legal.

So before jumping into marriage, here are some serious questions I asked myself to help me decide.

1. Do We Love Each Other?
We must love each other.
2. Do We Trust Each Other?
This is also a must. Since I have been cheated on in the past like so many of us have, I really needed to know that we could trust her.
3. Do We Respect Each Other?
For me respect is no matter where she is or who she is with, whether I am there or not, she lets everyone know she is mine and I am hers. She demands that no matter what, nobody crosses those lines. This is important to me because I want to feel that I am that one woman in her life. That special person she chose. Likewise, I want to make her feel the same. No flirting or looking at other men or women. We wear our rings proudly.
4. Can We Communicate?
When I say communicate, I mean we can talk about anything. I need to be able talk and be able to express myself to her.
5. Are We in Love With Each Other?
We both love each other but both of us must be in love.
6. Can We Accept Each Other for Who We Are?
This is where I say I love you just the way you are.  Can I say that and really mean it? What if she gains a lot of weight or loses her teeth? Or maybe she gets sick or becomes disable, will that matter. Or what if that happens to me? Will she leave me? It must be in sickness and in health. To death do us part.
7. Are We Honest With Each other?
I know you don't tell each other everything about our lives, but this is the part where we talk about any past Ex’s, boyfriends, friends, that I might have deal with. Are there some kids I don't know about? Are there some girlfriends still in the picture? Let’s just be honest with other.
8. Can We Accept Each Other’s Past?
Everybody has a past; you know those skeletons in our closets. But this part right here, whether it be good bad or ugly, will we be able to accept it.  If something does come up from our past, is it going to bother me or her? Is it going to upset one of us or make one of us mad?  So, I need to know we can accept each other’s past.
9. What Are We Willing to Give Up?
Family, friends, money, location etc.
10. Will There Be Kids Involved if so, how do You Both Feel About Kids?
Some women want kids or already have kids. Kids always come along with whichever parent. Something I have never had a problem with.
11. Can We Come Together and Resolve Our Issues?
It is one thing to be able to communicate but another to be able to resolve a problem or come up with a solution.
12. Are We Compatible?
I have been in relationships that there was no compatibility and it is like night and day.  The act of just carrying on a conversation to me is hard with a person you have nothing in common with. So being compatible is very important. I have also been in relationships that were driven by money. Too stressful, especially when she wants more and more, and you do not have it to give.
13. Do We Share Some of the Same Goals?
How do you we feel about jobs, income, kids, and family? Do we want to live in the same state or relocate? What are our goals in life? What do we want to achieve together?
14. Will Our Families Accept Us If Not, How Will We Handle This?
This is very important when it comes to gay couples. Acceptance from each other’s family is important because family can mean a lot to some and if you clash, well sometimes that can get ugly.  So, it is important to know how we both are going deal with family.
15. Sexual Compatibility?
When it comes to sexual compatibility, everyone has their own preferences. The main thing to me is to be honest about everything going in, that way there will not be any surprises later.
I know nobody is perfect. I am far from it, but marriage is something that is serious and not to be taken lightly. Not to say this is a perfect list, but when it comes to spending the rest of my life with someone, asking these questions and more, made it possible for me to get to know that person I would be marrying and her to know me as well.

I am not saying a list is good for everybody because you may have your own way of doing things, but it helped me avoid going through those same things that didn’t work in my past relationships.

Ladies Readiness for Lean Abs Preparation

Both men and women can get the sexy flat stomach you’ve been dreaming about… if you know the simple training secret.

 Ladies who experience thorough preparing just to get lean abs is presently turning into a well-known pattern overall since it advances a compelling method for keeping the body fit, attractive, incredible looking, and sound. Albeit numerous ladies who are profiting by this, there are yet the individuals personal thing.

What obstructs ladies from getting well defined abs?

Despite the favorable circumstances it brings to make collections of ladies hotter, there are so still things that thwart ladies from getting well defined abs. On the off chance that you were one of the individuals who are wanting to accomplish lean abs yet at the same time have faltering’s, it is an unquestionable requirement that you direct a straightforward research first on the points of interest and impediments of preparing to get six-pack preparing.

Something that ruin ladies from getting well defined abs is that the preparation makes the lady’s muscles massive and the general appearance manly. In the event that reality to be told, ladies—in spite of preparing for lean abs—would not have a cumbersome build since her body can’t create enough sum testosterone that is expected to have tremendous muscles like those in men. Ladies who are strong did not get those from preparing yet from having over the top measures of testosterone in their bodies.

Getting ready through eating regimen

For ladies to accomplish well defined abs, the key equation for progress is acceptable and legitimate nourishment. This is on the grounds that it gives the fundamental things, for example, vitality for development and food can be gotten from appropriate eating regimen.

As per nutritionists, legitimate sustenance ought to incorporate appropriate arrangements of nourishment. For individuals who are intending to create well defined abs, this ought to be a main consideration to consider because it will make the preparation progressively effective. Coming up next are some eating tips to get ready ladies get that six-pack tears and muscles in a matter of moments:

1. Ensure that you eat at any rate multiple times regular. For apprentices in creating well defined abs, this is the most fundamental guideline since this will guarantee that you have the vitality to suffer weightlifting. Eating dinners once every 2 to 3 hours will guarantee the steadiness of glucose. This will likewise guarantee fulfillment of longings, augmentation of digestion and vitality, and steady need to take care of the structure muscles.

2. Enough sums and noteworthy sorts of protein ought to be expended appropriately. Protein assumes a major job in creating lean abs since it makes up the individual’s tissues. To know how much protein, you must get that much-desired well-defined abs, duplicate your all-out bodyweight by 1.2. The outcome will be the measure of protein—in grams—is the perfect sum that ought to be devoured ordinary.

3. Guarantee that you expend the correct kinds and sums sugars. In ladies who are preparing for lean abs, carbs are essential to flexibly the vitality your body needs. To make sense of how much carbs you need day by day, duplicate the slender weight of your body by 0.8 and the outcome is the aggregate sum of carbs—in grams—is the thing that you need. Recollect that since getting well defined abs has something to do with losing fats, you should just expend the nourishments with low carbs, for example, earthy colored rice, oats, and yams.

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4. Continuously incorporate veggies into your eating routine. Ladies who are anticipating having well defined abs ought to guarantee that green verdant veggies like green beans, broccoli, and lettuce have a spot on their eating routine. These kinds of nourishments will guarantee that longings can be smothered without getting ravenous. While preparing, veggies can likewise help digestion which will make the ingestion of protein simpler and quicker.

Other websites that might interest you:

Let’s Tone It Up

How to Get Those Six-Pack Abs

Weightlifting Complete